One thing I frequently run into on wedding days is the aloofness of the Bridal Party. Much of this isn't their fault, it is just poor communication. When you ask someone to be a Bridesmaid, or Groomsman, they also take on a silent role as dress holder (while you pee), car loader (all those gifts), clean-up crew (unless you hire one), and the list goes on, and on. So when you pick a member of your bridal party, pick with care, and make sure they understand they aren't just expected to look cute in a dress/tux, their duty truly is to the Bride and Groom.
Here is a helpful list of things you as a Bride or Groom may not think of: (this is just a list of DAY OF duties) this doesn't include all those showers, and events that lead up to the big day!
- Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup
- Ask if the bride needs anything (food, water, etc) all the way up till the time she is walking down the aisle. She will really appreciate it!
- Assist the other bridesmaids on where to go and timing, especially if they show up late.
- Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.
- Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!
- Groomsmen assist ushers to seat the guests to their seats, and be social prior to the wedding.
- Take some deep breaths and walk slow when you walk down the aisle since it is common to speed up. If a groomsman walks down the aisle with you, make him refrain from talking or fooling around.
- Always look for the unexpected since it is common for the most uncommon things to happen (i.e, something falling down at the alter). If you are close enough, fix what needs to be fixed so the bride, groom and their families can focus on the ceremony.
- If you are single, make sure to mingle and have a great time at the party! It is mandatory to catch the bridal bouquet :)
- If you are with your partner, make sure to dance and socialize since it means a lot to the bride and groom (when they have time to sit down) to see their friends having and creating a good time for themselves and the other guests.
- Last, but not least, Provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!