RSVP cards for the Reception and Rehearsal Dinner are due back by the 12th (SATURDAY), in case you were curious on how to respond, here is a little guide and helpful link at the bottom!
From Emily Post the Manners Queen:
1. How do I respond? Reply in the manner indicated on the invitation.
- RSVP and no response card: a handwritten response to the host at the return address on the envelope.
- Response Card: fill in and reply by the date indicated and return in the enclosed envelope.
- RSVP with phone number: telephone and make sure to speak in person – answering machines can be unreliable.
- RSVP with email: you may accept or decline electronically.
- Regrets only: reply only if you cannot attend. If your host doesn’t hear from you, he is expecting you!
- No reply requested? Unusual, but it is always polite to let someone know your intentions. A phone call would be sufficient.
2. Is that your final answer?
- Changing a ‘yes’ to a ‘no’ is only acceptable on account of: illness or injury, a death in the family or an unavoidable professional or business conflict. Call your hosts immediately.
- Canceling because you have a “better” offer is a sure fire way to get dropped from ALL the guest lists.
- Being a “no show” is unacceptable.
- Changing a ‘no’ to a ‘yes’ is OK only if it will not upset the hosts’ arrangements.
3. “May I bring…”
Don’t even ask! An invitation is extended to the people the hosts want to invite—and no one else.
- …a date. Some invitations indicate that you may invite a guest or date (Mr. John Evans and Guest) and when you reply, you should indicate whether you are bringing someone, and convey their name.
- …my children. If they were invited, the invitation would have said so.
- … my houseguest. It’s best to decline the invitation, stating the reason. This gives your host the option to extend the invitation to your guests, or not.
4. Say “Thank You.”
- Here is something to try instead of Post Office RSVP's. It is a call service that your guest can call and RSVP to your big event. My Caterer told me about this! http://www.bestweddingrsvp.com/
There are several out there, just google "Wedding RSVP Service"