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You know wedding planning has taken over your life when these things start happening.
1. You're using your lunch hour to run wedding errands...instead of eating.
meals is bad news for your mood -- and more important, your wedding
fitness plan! It can lead to exaggerated emotions, amped-up stress and
an overall dark cloud over your head (sound familiar?).
making a habit of planning instead of lunching is a lose-lose. Set a
limit on how often you can swap your salad for a wedding task. "I
decided that only one lunch per week was allowed to be wedding-related
and the rest needed to be a break," says Chelsea, a user on TheKnot.com.
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2. Your fiance starts joking (or maybe not joking) about eloping.
your fiance is less involved in the planning process than you are, he
probably decided to lie low about the wedding . . . until it got really
bad. Sometimes it takes a reality check from someone else to know it's
time to put the brakes on wedding worries -- even if it's something you
don't want to hear.
knew I was on overload when my fiance told me he was going to be so glad
when the wedding was all over, so he wouldn't have to hear about it
anymore," says Bethany.
3. The most exciting thing that's happened in your bedroom lately is watching the Say Yes to the Dress premiere on TV.
it's because you're sparring over the guest list or just exhausted from
a lack of sleep (thanks to all those wedding nightmares), a dry spell
in the bedroom is common for engaged couples.
surprise there: Dampened sex drive is a big indicator of overpowering
stress, according to the US National Library of Medicine. So if things
start cooling off between the sheets, press pause on planning the
reception menu and have a steamy date night instead.
4. You start questioning all of your decisions. But you don't do that...well, maybe you do.
know you're overthinking things when you start wanting to trash all
your original plans for New! Better! Ideas! Worrying that you made the
wrong call about your reception venue, which florist to hire or how much
to spend on photography will only feed your stress even more, making
for a never-ending cycle of fear.
if doubts start creeping in, let up on planning for a week or two. When
you come back with a fresher mind, you'll have a better idea of which
doubts were truly valid and which ones were just a product of your
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5. You procrastinate on the tasks that really need to get done.
not how you normally picture a bridezilla -- ignoring her checklist and
putting off to-dos -- but if you're finding yourself neglecting wedding
planning tasks, you probably don't even realize how overwhelmed you
If your wedding date
is looming and the list looks impossible to tackle, start with something
fun and easy, like a cake tasting or shopping for your wedding shoes,
to get back into the swing of things. Having a few small items checked
off will make the rest seem more doable.
6. It stops being fun.
all comes down to this: If you're focusing more on the negative (like
the number of guests who RSVPed "no") than the positive (like the fact
that you'll be married at the end of all of this!), something needs to
Come up with a
mantra that will help you concentrate on the bright side. "I've started
reminding myself how much I love my fiance and why I'm doing this in the
first place," says Samantha. "Oddly enough, reflecting on that brings a
great sense of calm."
-- Vi-An Nguyen
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