Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

'Frugal' Dress Finds

My good friends Shelby shared Ms. Cheap's Link with me about great places to find an inexpensive dress!

Encore Bridal, 106 N. Church St. in Murfreesboro, always has about 100 dresses in stock, priced between $99 and $300. Hours are 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Wednesday-Saturday.

Second Time Around, 121 Indian Lake Road in Hendersonville, specializes in consigned wedding gowns and usually has at least 200 wedding dresses, most selling for between $200 and $250.

• Memories, 4983 Lebanon Road in Old Hickory, also focuses on gently used bridal gowns and has as many as 500 wedding dresses, priced between $95 and $400. Memories rents some of the dresses for between $100 and $150. 391-4931.

• Fashion Boutique and Alterations, 2120 Crestmoor Road in Green Hills, usually has 15 or more designer consigned wedding dresses for $150-$450.

Arzelle's Bridal, 2926 West End Ave., has a sample sale every year in the late summer/early fall with great dresses for $400 or less.

Monday, March 29, 2010

I'm NOT cheap!

...I am frugal, I hear myself saying this a lot. I just like to bargain hunt, you give me a price I will find a competitor who is willing to sell it to me for less. So friends I have found a great "frugal" site to share with you. They have everything from isle runners, bubbles, table number cards, favors, all VERY CHEAP!

So Happy Shopping.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Blog Love!

I love the Wedding Chicks Blog, they are not only stylish, but they give some really good information to help you plan your dream wedding. Sign up with them and get free planning guides and SOOOO MUCH MORE!

Have a great weekend!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

How to include Children

I get a lot of questions about Children and weddings, or about 2nd weddings in General. I am going to touch on a few ways you can include your children in your wedding whether it is your 1st or 5th Wedding.

1. Unity Ceremony's in a traditional setting, your mother would be the one that starts this, but you can have your children involved as well. Try Sand, kids and fire are a bad combo!

2. Invitations say Bob and Julia "with their families" should cover the kiddo's.

3. Your kids make great flower girls, maid of honors, ring bearers, and best men!

4. Vows, find a way to incorporate the children into the vows, by making a vow not only to your husband/wife but to the child/children as well.

5. First Dances, make them a part of the first dance, just not all of it. After all this is about you and your honey, not just the kiddos.

Find more information at

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Signature Cocktails!

I love a good cocktail, add one scoop of ice, two parts creativity, and one part fun and you got yourself a party in a glass!

You can save a great deal of $$$ by having a signature cocktail instead of a traditional open bar. You can even match the color of the cocktail to your wedding colors, and give it a creative name like "The DAMBER" Dave + Amber = DAMBER (nickname given to us by my Bridesmaids).

Here is great link to Fun and creative Signature Cocktails for your receptions, shower, engagement party, or just because!


Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Feathers & Buttons

The lovely and talented Whitney McClure is now making these stunning boutiners made from buttons and feathers. Check out her crafty work. If you are interested email her at

Monday, March 22, 2010

its all in a Name

Here is a neat gift for that Bride to be or maybe even that Groomsman or Bridesmaid (who maybe engaged as well). It is an Architectural Name Frame. We were given one of these as a wedding gift and I thought it was so neat and personable we loved it!!!

You can find them everywhere on the web by doing a Google Search.

Friday, March 19, 2010

March Maddness

We are out of town today cheering on my brother in laws High School basketball team, they made it to the Elite 8 of the Kentucky State Championship!!!!!!!!!! More Wedding fun to come on Monday!!! Have a safe, and happy weekend!

Thursday, March 18, 2010

The Boro Bridal Ball

The Boro Bridal Ball is this Saturday from 11-4pm at the Stones River Country Club in Murfreesboro. Check out their website, and take a mom, or a bridesmaid or two and check it out this weekend.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Happy St. Patricks Day!

Sláinte "to your health" in Honor of St. Patrick's Day here is a Kelly Green Inspiration Board.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Shower the Men too!

A fun alternative to the traditional shower with finger foods and dainty napkins, a a couples shower, it can feature hearty food and drink and loads of fun. Just remember to make it Guy Friendly!

Step 1

Ask for the bride's and groom's input before planning their couples shower. Develop the guest list with their help, remembering that all shower guests should also be invited to the wedding.

Step 2

Select a date and time that will be convenient for couples. A Friday or Saturday evening affair or a Sunday afternoon barbecue may be the best bet.

Step 3

Consider a location other than your home. Restaurants and public parks are good choices, especially if you cannot accommodate a lot of people in your home or backyard.

Step 4

Choose a theme. While an elegant tea is not out of the question, create an atmosphere in which men will feel comfortable and have fun.

Step 5

Decide whether you want formal or casual dress. Bear in mind that most people enjoy dressing down, especially on a weekend. Indicate "casual" or "dressy" on the invitation.

Step 6

Plan a menu. A party with wine and appetizers may be appropriate, or you can arrange for a catered dinner, deli sandwiches or a full-scale outdoor cookout. A potluck affair will be easiest for you and will allow everyone to contribute.

Step 7

Decide whether you want to play games or not. If so, try to come up with games that will involve the men without seeming too corny.

Step 8

Consider the gift-opening segment of the party. While men might be interested in the groom's gifts, they might also become bored. Provide alternatives such as a sports event on TV or an outdoor activity.

Step 9

Try to limit the shower to a couple of hours. To avoid people lingering far beyond your expectations, include both a starting and ending time on the invitation.

Monday, March 15, 2010

Small Wedding? No Problem

Here is a great local venue in Downtown Nashville that is quite reasonable, and will give you a great place for a smaller more intimate wedding and/or reception. It is also a great place to keep in mind for a rehearsal Dinner, Small Corporate Event, or even that High School Reunion!

Events @ 1418

Events @ 1418 offer Standing occupancy at 120, Seated @ 100, and rooftop @ 50. Check out their website and BLOG for more information.

Friday, March 12, 2010

Got it at Goodwill?!?!?

You read that right, On March 20, Goodwill Industries of Middle Tennessee invites you to the Goodwill Wedding Gala where bridal wear will be sold at deeply discounted prices with the proceeds going to benefit Goodwill.

Don't believe me? Check out the Goodwill Look Book!

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Favor time!!!

We went back and forth on favors for our wedding, in the end we decided on Cigars and Matchbooks. Here is a cute Personalized Margarita Mix Set you can give as a gift or as favors.

From My Wedding Favors

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Bridal Shower Etiquette

Bridal Shower: Who's Invited to a Bridal Shower?


My matron of honor asked me to give her a bridal shower guest list. Do I invite all the women who will be invited to the wedding or just close family and friends? Also, I will be inviting several people from the East Coast to my West Coast wedding. Do I send them bridal shower invitations, even though I know they won't be able to attend, or will this look like a ploy to get more bridal shower gifts?


You don't have to invite every woman who's invited to your wedding (think of the expense for your bridesmaids if you did!). The guest list should include your closest female pals and relatives (and your fiance's mom, sis, and other close female friends and family). As for far-flung guests, sending a shower invite is a nice gesture even if you know they can't attend -- it shows them that they're important to you and that you would have wanted them there.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

always read the fine print...

you say "My location has an on-site coordinator that will take care of me the day of."


Will the on-site coordinator do all for you that your wedding coordinator will? From many, many weddings and past experiences, day of coordinators do a variety of things for brides, each wedding being out of the ordinary, and to this day I haven't met an on-site coordinator that will do any of the following. Before you make the statement above, think about if your on-site coordinator will go above and beyond for you.

1. Your bridesmaid's are wearing strands of pearls and pearl earrings. 3 of your 6 bridesmaid's didn't get that memo and now we are 3 short, meaning we make a run to the nearest location that would have that item and pick up those 3 sets you need for a complete look. Would your on-site coordinator do that?
2. You have a gorgeous Monique Lhuillier wedding dress, your dream design, that has an incredible French bustle, and before you and your new husband step out onto the dance floor, you need the incredibly difficult ribbon system decoded to create this one of a kind bustle you spent months, and many dollars, designing. To create this, your wedding planner is tucked between your legs :) to make this incredible design happen.
3. Unfortunately, one of your dear guests didn't RSVP for themselves and their wonderful boyfriend and now we're in a seating dilemma for your plated dinner. They don't see an escort card for them as a couple and now we need to make rearrangements for your guests to join the party.
4. Your DJ has made a terrible mistake on the song choices and is completely screwing up. He or she most definitely needs some redirection and we are there to put them back on track!
5. Your petticoat to give your dress the extra oomph that it needs was left at home, as you discover 15 minutes before your pictures begin. Many calls later, a petticoat is found close by at a bridal shop and is purchased just in time for pictures!
6. Last minute, after months of deliberation, you decide that you would like to have that makeup artist come in and treat you to your own personal beautifying application, 3 days before your wedding. Will the on-site coordinator swoop in as the wedding hero and track down a makeup artist to not only do your makeup on the day of, but will also do a makeup application for your mother for free as well, and will come to you?
7. Will your on-site coordinator come over to the ceremony site and make sure that your ceremony runs smoothly, bridal party gets down the aisle, and you become the Mrs. that you have dreamed of for so long?

Monday, March 8, 2010

Getting to know you....

I think pre-martial counseling is VERY important, couples should learn what their spouse to be's goals are for the marriage and themselves before taking the plunge.

Marie McKinney-Oates with Nashville Marriage Studio is offering a discounted rate of $30/session (sessions are regularly
$50/session) on premarital counseling if your wedding date is after July 1st, 2010. Don't forget you get a $60 discount on your license if you complete a pre-martial counseling course.

Here is how she breaks down her sessions:

Premarital Counseling consists of 8 sessions:
Session 1 – Initial meeting and evaluating what the couple’s strengths and weaknesses are.
Session 2 - Meet individually with each of partner for approximately 30 minutes to find out about any anxieties/concerns about marriage.
Session 3 - Determine how the families you come from will impact your marriage.
Session 4 - Practice skills that will help you communicate in a healthier way.
Session 5 - The couple will have an argument over a typical problem and will resolve it using conflict resolution skills.
Session 6 – Finances are one of the biggest reasons couples give for getting divorced. We’ll look at how to avoid frustration surrounding money.
Session 7 - Sexuality can be another confusing issue during the 1st year of marriage. We’ll talk about what each partner needs in the bedroom.
Session 8 - A great marriage won’t happen without goals. We’ll layout what you

Friday, March 5, 2010

Who pays for what?

There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to "Who Pays for What", but this general guideline follows the traditional breakdown.

Traditional Breakdown of Expenses

Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories- The Bride's Family

Wedding Ring for Bride- The Groom

Wedding Ring for Groom- The Bride

Wedding Gift for Groom- The Bride

Wedding Gift for Bride- The Groom

Bridesmaid Gifts- The Bride

Groomsmen/Usher Gifts- The Groom

Bride's Bouquet- The Groom

Bridesmaid Bouquets- The Bride's Family

Mother's Corsages- The Groom

Grandmother Corsages- The Bride's Family

Groom's Boutonniere- The Groom

Groomsmen Boutonnieres- The Groom

Usher's Boutonnieres- The Groom

Ceremony/Reception Flowers- The Bride's Family

Altar Baskets/Arches- The Bride's Family

Canopy/Carpet- The Bride's Family

Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs- The Bride's Family

Rented Items for Wedding- The Bride's Family

Rented Items for Reception- The Bride's Family

Invitations/Announcements- The Bride's Family

Wedding Programs- The Bride's Family

Napkins/Matches/Printed Items- The Bride's Family

Marriage License- The Groom

Medical Visit for Bride- The Bride

Medical Visit for Groom- The Groom

Church Fee- The Bride's Family

Clergyman/Officiant Fee- The Groom

Musician/Soloist- The Bride's Family

Church Janitor- The Bride's Family

Reception Hall Fee- The Bride's Family

Catered Reception/Professional Services- The Bride's Family

Wedding Photography- The Bride's Family

Video Photography- The Bride's Family

Orchestra/Band/DJ- The Bride's Family

Wedding Cake- The Bride's Family

Wedding Favors- The Bride's Family

Groom's Cake- The Groom's Family

Rice Bags- The Bride's Family

Rehearsal Dinner- The Grooms Family

Bridesmaid Luncheon- The Bride

Bachelor Party- Best Man/Groom's Attendants

Wedding Breakfast- The Bride's Family

Bridal Brunch- The Bride's Family

Bridesmaid's Gowns- Bridesmaid's

Maid of Honor Gown- Maid of Honor

Matron of Honor Gown- Matron of Honor

Best Man Formal Wear- Best Man

Usher's Formal Wear- Ushers

Groomsmen's Formal Wear- Groomsmen

Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants- The Groom

Father of Bride Formal Wear- Bride's Family

Father of Groom Formal Wear- Groom's Family

Children's Formal Wear- The Children's Parents

Limousine Service- The Groom

Honeymoon Arrangements- The Groom

Travel Expenses to the Wedding- The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member

Accommodations for out-of town Guests- The Bride

Gifts for the Couple- Guest, Attendants and Family

Thursday, March 4, 2010

MOG duties!!!

The mother of the groom is often at a loss as to exactly what role she plays in the marriage of her son. This is even more true when she has not participated previously in a wedding for a daughter or other sibling. The following rules of etiquette are shared to increase the joy and fulfill the traditional responsibilities of the mother of the groom.

Her responsibilities include:

* The first rule of etiquette to be followed upon receiving news of the impending nuptials is to initiate contact between the families. Introducing herself and her husband to the bride's parents is her first responsibility. This may be as simple as making a call to the bride's mother and telling her how happy she is about the engagement or an informal invitation to dinner at their home. If preferred, dinner at a nice restaurant is always in order. This may be with or without the couple in attendance.

If the parents live far away, a friendly letter is appropriate. A snapshot of the family and maybe even one of her son as a small child is always welcomed by the bride's mother and is a kind gesture.

* The importance of providing an accurate and timely guest list can neither be over emphasized, nor the importance of sticking to the guidelines given her as to the number of guests she many invite. Remember to include zip codes.
* It is the bride's mother who will first select a dress for her daughters wedding. A gown of complimentary color and similar styling is then chosen by the mother of the groom. She must wear long if the bride's mother wears long or short if she wears short. The color should not match the bridesmaids, nor the brides' mother, but compliment both.
* Reservations for out-of-town guests, invited by the groom's family, are the responsibility of the mother of the groom. It will be much more convenient if a block of rooms are reserved at a nearby hotel, which is near her home.
* It is the responsibility of the groom's parents to host the rehearsal dinner. This can be as simple as a salad potluck with paper plates in the backyard or as elaborate as an exotic dinner with live entertainment in the finest restaurant. Everyone who takes a part in the ceremony is invited to the dinner. It is proper etiquette to invite the spouse or significant other of those participating, and the parents of children in the wedding.
* Scheduled family photographs, prior to the wedding, will dictate the groom's parents time of arrival. If photos are not scheduled to be taken before the ceremony, the arrival should be no less than one hour before the appointed time
* As the wedding begins, the groom's mother will be escorted down the aisle, to the first pew, right-hand side, by the head usher or a groomsman who is a family member. A nice touch includes the groom escorting his mother down the aisle. As the groom's mother is escorted to her seat, her husband will follow along behind. However, if the parents are divorced, the father of the groom will have been seated previously, two pews behind the mother.
* The role as mother of the groom, in the ceremony, may include lighting the family candle on the altar, along with the mother of the bride. Family candles are lit after the candle lighters have left the altar area, and prior to the entrance of the wedding party.
* The first official duty of the mother of the groom, during the reception is to stand in the receiving line greeting guests and introducing her friends and family to the bride and her family. Traditionally she stands between the bride and her mother. If the fathers of the couple choose to stand in the line, she will stand between them.

* Be familiar with the responsibilities of the Maid of Honor. You may want to have a conversation with the Maid of Honor to coordinate and avoid stepping on each others toes.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Duties of the Best Man!

The Best Man's responsibilities include

1. Make absolutely sure that the groom has the marriage license with him.
2. Receive the minister's fee from the groom and give it to the minister privately following the ceremony.
3. Help the groom pack for his honeymoon.
4. Help the groom dress for the ceremony.
5. If a ring bearer is to be in the wedding, the Best Man is responsible to oversee the child and be sure he understands his duties. (See note below)
6. Assist with luggage arrangements for both the bride and the groom so that everything will be ready for their departure.
7. Make sure car or travel arrangements are set and that the groom is carrying any necessary reservations, tickets, money and travelers checks.
8. The Best Man will want to ride to the church with the groom.
9. It is the Best Man's responsibility to make sure the ushers are together and ready before the ceremony begins. Many weddings have been delayed by dilly dallying ushers who are either cutting up to relieve the tension they feel or are out having the last quick puff on a cigarette.
10. Alert ushers as to the ladies who will be wearing flowers and make sure they are not seated before receiving them.
11. Check all the men's boutonnieres. These should always be worn on the left lapel, stem down.
12. Perform any task or errand the groom or the bride's mother may request at the church.
13. If applicable, remind the groom to remove his gloves as the bride comes down the aisle.
14. Be first at the reception in order to welcome the bride and groom.
15. The Best Man is responsible to make the first toast to the bride and groom at the wedding. The Best Man is also responsible to make the first toast at the rehearsal dinner.
16. The Best Man should act as a host, making introductions when necessary and helping to make the guests feel welcome.
17. The Best Man should dance at the reception with the bride, both mothers and as many of the bridal attendants and guest as possible.
18. Help the groom change into his travel clothes after the reception. Find out when the bride is ready to leave and with the maid/matron of honors, help the bride and groom depart.
19. Return the groom's tuxedo to the tux shop or if it belongs to the groom, be responsible for taking it to the cleaners.
20. Order flowers for the bride and groom's room at the first stop of the honeymoon trip.
21. Another responsibility of the Best Man may include the signing of the marriage certificate. This is not only a legal document but also a beautiful keepsake for the couple. Many times, the Best Man is not aware that his signature may be required and he may be off with the guests.
23. Note about ring bearer: The Best Man has the responsibility of carrying the bride's wedding ring. However, many times the couple will also want to have a ring bearer. We recommend that the "real" ring be kept safe in the pocket of the Best Man. Why? Just remember the boy with stage fright who never made it down the aisle…or even better, the ring bearer who argued with the Best Man when he tried to remove the ring and then cried his eyes out when the Best Man took it away

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

MOB Role

The Primary responsibility of the Mother of the Bride is to see that the bride's wishes are carried out the bride's way. It will be your responsibility to help the bride plan her wedding with her tastes in mind…not yours, unless, it is the true desire of the bride to "let mom run things."

Here are your primary responsibilities:

1. Help the bride select her wedding attire. Remember, this is not your wedding. If you find yourself talking the bride out of a gown she loves, you may be overreaching.
2. Help the bride and groom decide on a wedding budget. Settling money issues upfront is always best. A good clear budget will help everyone with their expectations.
3. In the event that the Mother of the Groom does not contact you, you will make the first contact.
4. See that the guest lists are put together. The invitations must be ordered as soon as possible, and the guest list will be critical in making your invitation order.
5. Reservations for out-of-town guests, invited by the bride's family, are the responsibility of the mother of the bride. It will be much more convenient if a block of rooms are reserved at a nearby hotel, which is near her home.
6. Choose your gown for the wedding day. Immediately tell the Mother of the Groom the colors and style so that she may begin looking for a complimentary gown. Send a swatch of material to the Mother of Groom if possible.
7. See that instructions for the actual ceremony are given. This includes the seating schedule and the receiving line at reception, as well as any special touches the bride may choose to have at her wedding.
8. The role as mother of the bride, in the ceremony, may include lighting the family candle on the altar, along with the mother of the groom. Family candles are lit after the candle lighters have left the altar area, and prior to the entrance of the wedding party.
9. Find a trusted friend or family member who is not in the wedding party to assist you throughout the wedding. You are the hostess for the entire event! Find someone who will help you with some of the details…sometimes a professional is best.
10. Be familiar with the responsibilities of the Maid of Honor. You may want to have a conversation with the Maid of Honor to coordinate and avoid stepping on each other's toes.

Monday, March 1, 2010

It's Know your role week....Up First MOH

Commonly known as the Maid/Matron of Honor, this lady is your best friend the one you trust with helping you plan your big day, and who is also suppose to keep you sane, throw you a Party or two among other things. Here is the role of the MOH.

1. Attending all prenuptial parties.
2. Help address invitations and announcements.
3. Entertain a party for the bride and groom…if possible. This could be a couple's shower.
4. Assist bride with going away clothes and luggage.
5. Be sure that bridesmaids are kept aware of their fitting appointments, rehearsal obligations and any special duties that the bride may wish for them to do.
6. Arrange with a florist for a supply of rose petals to shower on the bride and groom as they leave. If a flower girl is in the party, she is responsible to see that the child knows when and how to do this.
7. Arrive at the church or home of the bride early enough to help with bride and bridesmaids with dressing (at least 2 hours early).
8. Remind the best man which ladies will be wearing their flowers (Mother, grandmothers, organist, soloist, hostesses, etc.).
9. Assist bride with her train during ceremony and in the receiving line.
10. Hold the bride's wedding bouquet for the exchange of rings during the ceremony and hand it back just before the recessional.
11. In a double ring ceremony, carry the groom's ring until it is time to hand it to the minister.
12. Assist the photographer with identification of the members of the bridal party and later for pictures, which are taken at the church and reception. Be sure to find the kind of candid shots the bride may want of the out-of-town guests. Be certain the photographer has taken an appropriate number of these candid shots.
13. Witness and sign the marriage certificate after the ceremony.
14. Stand in the receiving line. The traditional place to stand is at the groom's left side with her bridesmaids to her left.
15. Assist the bride when she is ready to change into here going away ensemble.
16. With the best man, help the couple depart.
17. See that the bride's gown is taken care of according to her wishes. Usually taken to the bride's home or to a cleaner.

Remember, this is the bride's day. Your job is to assist the bride and help her day be as carefree and special as possible. As a maid of honor, you should set the tone among the women in the bridal party. Stay cool and never out shine the bride. It truly is an honor to serve.